Life is hard. It’s beautiful and wonderful and any number of other positive adjectives, but it’s hard. From the moment we’re born, the weight of life’s expectations starts pushing down on us. We start school and we are expected to do well on standardized tests. After that, we go to college, where we are expected to get a degree in four years and move on to a well-paying job. When we get a job and find ourselves in the real world, we’re expected to pay our bills and do our taxes and all those other things that we were never taught in school.
Sometimes, we do everything right only to find out that the end product is all wrong. We get great test scores in high school and get into the perfect college, only to find out that it isn’t the right school for us. We rack up thousands in student debt to get our degree, then struggle to find a job that even covers our rent. As we watch our world falling apart around us, we look back at all of our “smart” decisions and wonder where we went wrong. I get it. I’ve been there. I did all the “right” things and still ended up feeling unfulfilled.
But here’s the thing: it doesn’t have to be that way.
Ignoring Life’s Expectations
If you’re anything like me, then you’ve followed the standard path that is laid out for everyone. You’ve done all of the things that you’re expected to do. You’re doing everything that the world considers “smart” or “right.” Maybe you ended up where you are because you didn’t know what else you’d want to do. Maybe you thought that getting this far would have put you in a better position than you’re in, be it in terms of your career, your finances, or something else. Whatever the reason, if you’ve read this far in this article, then I’m betting that you’re looking for answers to one simple question: how do I get out of this rut?
Life’s expectations are what have gotten you here. You may have thought that they were your family’s, your partner’s, or even your own, but you’re wrong (sorry). Everyone around you, and you yourself, are driven by the ideals of our society. Do you want to know a secret? Society doesn’t have your best interests at heart.
If you want to reclaim your life, then it’s time to stop waiting around for the winds of change. It’s time to make your own fate. Life is hard, and no one is going to swoop in and save you. You have to save yourself. It’s time for you to find your passion.
Find Your Passion and Take Control of Your Life
Take some time to yourself. Go on a walk. Sit in the park. Smell the flowers; watch the birds fly by. Why? Simple: remove yourself from the routine of your day-to-day life, and you’ll be able to think more clearly. Your mind won’t be clouded by everything that you’d normally be doing.
Ask yourself what you want in life, and try to ignore the pressure of the world. In my case, I was driven through most of my decisions based on financial issues. I wanted to get a job that would pay me well, so I spent a small fortune on college. After all, it takes money to make money, right? But that’s not really the way it works, and in the end it wasn’t worth the money put in. And the thing is, it wasn’t really a well-paying job that I wanted – it’s just that I thought that I had to have one in order to get what I really wanted.
What I really want is to live comfortably with a loving family and be able to pursue my passions. That’s it. I don’t need a super well-paying job for that. All I need is a career that I’ll enjoy and to be surrounded by my loved ones.
What do you want?
Whatever it is, don’t settle for anything less. Find your passion and go for it, no matter what it takes.